If you keep getting anxious in relationships, Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller explains the three adult attachment styles (anxious, avoidant and secure) and helps you identify your own. Anxiously Attached by psychotherapist Jessica Baum is written for people who struggle with anxiety in love. For couples, Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson sets out Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) through case studies and practical exercises.
This guide is for adults who feel anxious in relationships and want to understand why. That might mean worrying when a partner doesn't reply to a text, being drawn to people who are emotionally unavailable, or having the same argument again and again. It is also for couples who want to work on their relationship together.
For anyone who wants to understand how attachment theory applies to their own relationships. Psychiatrist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel Heller describe the anxious, avoidant and secure styles, with quizzes and case studies to help you identify your own style and recognise other people's.
For people who become anxious when a partner doesn't reply to a text quickly, or who find themselves drawn to emotionally unavailable people. Psychotherapist and couples' counsellor Jessica Baum uses case studies and exercises on setting boundaries, saying what you need to feel secure, and building self-worth.
For couples stuck in the same conflicts. Sue Johnson presents her Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model, which focuses on calming conflict and building a safe emotional connection between partners, through case studies and practical exercises.
A companion to Hold Me Tight for couples who want to work through it together, whether they have been together for one year or fifty. It includes conversation prompts, exercises and activities for working through conflict.
For readers who want the research behind the popular books. John Bowlby, who pioneered attachment theory, examines attachment and separation using studies of children, and argues that attachment is an instinctive response to the need for protection. It runs to 448 pages.
For adults who grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable or selfish parent and still feel the effects. Clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson describes four types of difficult parent and how to create positive new relationships.
For people in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Psychotherapist Jessica Fern applies attachment theory to having more than one partner and sets out six strategies for moving towards secure attachment.
For couples who argue about housework and the mental load. Eve Rodsky, an organisational management consultant, researched the invisible work of running a home with more than 500 couples, and the book identifies the 100 main tasks in a relationship and how to divide them fairly.
For long-term couples who feel desire has faded. Psychotherapist Esther Perel draws on more than thirty years of counselling couples to look at the interplay between love and desire in committed relationships.
Attached describes them like this: anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and worry about their partner's ability to love them back; avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and try to keep closeness to a minimum; secure people are comfortable with intimacy.
Attached explains attachment styles in general. Anxiously Attached is written specifically for people who struggle with anxiety in love.
The Hold Me Tight Workbook is designed for couples, with conversation prompts, exercises and activities. It is a companion to Sue Johnson's Hold Me Tight.
John Bowlby pioneered it in the 1950s. His book Attachment examines attachment and separation, drawing on studies of children.
Selected by Fox & Fable from books in stock. Last updated 30 September 2026.
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